The Mommy War (and how to win)

"Full-time, stay at home moms need to stop complaining about how hard their "job" is. Since when is taking care of the kids YOU MADE, a "job." You don't have to deal with bosses, co-workers, the public, just to name a few. You can go bra-less, make-up less, play with your kids, leave when you want, nobody telling you what to do, no work-stress, while someone else pays all the bills. Be grateful for that life. You are so very lucky/spoiled."

(Well, actually... I mostly just stand around being fantastic, but that's beside the point.)

How do we win this Mommy War? 

• We "win" by offering encouragement to a mother whose life is different than ours.  
• We "win" by recognizing that working moms, moms who volunteer and moms who stay at home, ALL do important, necessary services. And ALL should deserve EQUAL respect. 
• We "win" when we don't treat dads like dummies or babysitters.
• We win when we work together to help another mother (or father) discover their passion and how to accomplish it in their own respective ways, instead of trying to conform them to our way of life.

I was a working mom. I remember dying a little inside each day I dropped P off at the daycare. Yearning to be home with him and helping him learn and grow. I hated learning about something new he did with his care giver that I missed.

I am now a full time stay at home mom of 6. I am currently missing life as a working mom, missing friends, adult conversation, a shower and a little makeup, a clean house (no one is home to mess it up when kids are at daycare and I'm at work).

The pressure of raising kids that will become productive members of society, is overwhelming. If they flop.. I'm the ONLY one to blame!

I'm sure you've heard "The grass is always greener on the other side." I've also heard "The grass is greener where you water it!" The moral of the story? Don't let comparison steal your joy!! Bloom where you are planted.

Right now, I'm planted here, at home. I'm not so sure I'm doing a great job at blooming, but I am trying. It doesn't matter if you are a working mom or a SAHM... you're a mom... WE are moms. And instead of tearing each other apart, let's encourage one another. End the "war"...